Friday, December 28, 2007

Bishop of Teneriffe's Frog May Have Been Misunderstood

When I was 13 I was horny like... like... Come to think of it, the only time I know anyone/anything was hornier was me when I was 15. If Pamela Anderson would've come to the same premesis where I was taking a shower and carefully washing my privates, she would've had to pull me off from her, not vice versa. Yet, legally, she would've raped me if that would've ever happened. (It did, in my dreams, often.)

As I seem to be the only adult who has been horny when I was 13, I am going to write another point of view of Bernando Álvarez's comments.

Bishop of Teneriffe, Bernando Álvarez said:
"There are 13 year old adolescents who are under age and who are perfectly in agreement with, and what’s more wanting it, and if you are careless they will even provoke you."
How true that is. I would've provoked almost any even remotely attractive girl to have sex with me back then, given the chance.

Yet news articles, blog responses and comments on the frog that leaped out of Bernando's mouth say he is blaming the children for being abused. Nah-uh. I don't think all children would provoke this kind of behaviour. And if I did dream of ripping Pamela's old blue overalls or new red swimsuit off, it doesn't necessarily mean I would've sat on Mr. Bishop's lap. And it wouldn't justify Pamela's actions if she would've ridden my matchstick. But people are unable to think with their brains when it comes to this kind of issues.
Brains switch off, and the "thinking" comes from the heart.

His comment in a nutshell is: Some kids feel horny.


From his comment, I interpret he's just stating the obvious.

Even the news article I read stated:
A later statement from the Bishop's residence on Tenerife explained that the Bishop did not intend to imply that ‘an event as condemnable as the abuse of youngsters’ could be justified.

The same news article that begins: Bishop of Tenerife blames child abuse on the children

Trying to fish some readers with shocking scoops, eh?

No. Abuse can't be justified. An adult should have that much self control to keep him/her from abusing children. He said nothing in the opposite direction. A 13-year old kid doesn't necessarily have enough self control for that - I know I didn't. What I gather, that's what he tried to say.

But of course, Bernando is Catholic, and Catholics have a bad reputation in this field. Which, by the way, started because of society's strict social behaviour rules. Homosexuality has been illegal in many countries, including Ireland. Even Oscar Wilde was living in staged marriage. Child abuse is still illegal. (And should stay illegal. Stating the obvious here... Disclaimer... Brains vs. the heart, you know.) When in the society it is a norm to get married and a man's sexuality is challenged if he is unmarried, of course he wants to be left alone. Church is one good place. No-one wonders why a priest is unmarried. And who would know from 10 exactly same looking priests which one is the gay one. It is a statement from the practical point of view, not "how things should be".

To recap - I try to keep the sentences short so everyone can understand - and these are all so obvious things I am surprised how everyone missed them:
Child abuse - bad.
Some children may feel horny.
An adult should still refrain from abusing children, regardless of the horniness of the child.

1 comment:

Markus "Uku" Laitinen said...

Damn good points you have, mate!